Reclaiming Triggers: The Limitless Woman Way to Emotional Power & Ethical Coaching

TRIGGER WARNING - not for people without a sense of humour!

I've seen some serious down punching and shade thrown in the public domain by so-called coaches shaming others (including their friends and clients) for being emotionally triggered – and it triggered me LOL!

Seriously though, alongside this frankly unethical display of coaches puking their own emotional triggers all over everyone, I’ve also been reading powerful accounts detailing the absolute lack of integrity and ethical dumpster fires some individuals in our industry are igniting and it's not okay. Where is the emotional intelligence? Coming from a childhood trauma and cult background myself, my number ONE rule in life and business is trust, confidence, and psychological safety. This is the Limitless Woman way.

It’s time for a truth bomb: being triggered isn't a weakness; it's a superpower waiting to be unleashed! Those intense emotional reactions? They're not red flags; they're blazing neon signs illuminating the exact path to our deepest, most genuine goddess transformations and healing and THIS is Goddess code!

Let's be crystal clear: if a coach is publicly down punching and shaming the very human experience of being triggered, they're not just incompetent and a danger to society; they're actively creating an unsafe environment. And psychological safety, my fierce friends, is the bedrock of true growth and vulnerability in any coaching relationship. Without trust, safety, and vulnerability, there is no growth.

You cannot crack open your heart and grow beyond edges of your wounds and rise into your full power if you're walking on eggshells of the passive aggressive coach, fearing judgment or ridicule from the very person who's supposed to be guiding you - or worse - that a coach uses your stories shared in trust and confidence to promote themselves on social media as being the solution to these problems! I've seen it, I've witnessed it, and it is shocking, beyond belief! Damn it, you're re-traumatising your clients so they remain with you when we want our clients to outgrow us and evolve into their own self-empowered Creator zone. This is the epitome of the psychopathic and narcissistic coach, the same trauma-bonding energy many were traumatised in by the parents as children in the first place.

This is why in business the Goddess is NOT the CEO; the Goddess is the realm of emotions and the CEO is the realm of the Badass Boss. The often glamorised 'CEO Goddess' archetype in our industry is flawed and leads to ethical breaches and harm. Why? Because she's trying to bring wounded feminine energy into a business world where there's no space for emotions in the boardroom - this is another blog series in itself - leave it with me! Trying to squish CEO + Goddess together is like trying to squish two marbles together.

The publicly shared accounts of unethical behavior underscore this with brutal clarity. When individuals in positions of mentorship display volatility and a shocking lack of self-regulation, it doesn't just erode trust – it obliterates the very foundation of safety needed for genuine vulnerability. It’s a betrayal of the sacred space a coaching relationship should be. This is NOT Goddess Code!

But here's the fierce truth I want to shout from the rooftops: being triggered, in and of itself, is NOT the problem. It's our response to it – both your own and, crucially, that of your coach. Forget the outdated, weak-sauce notion that being triggered is something to be ashamed of! Being triggered is a gift, pure freakin' gold!

Yes, sometimes we navigate those waves in inconvenient moments, needing to 'park' them for later. But listen: that uncomfortable surge of emotion? That's not a random glitch; it's your inner guidance system screaming for attention, a powerful frequency response echoing unhealed sh*t from the past, rising now to forge a stronger, more resilient future YOU! That's emotional intelligence.

Think of a splinter – festering, hidden. A trigger is that moment something bumps it, and the pain demands attention. The pain isn't the enemy; it's the messenger! Our triggers are the same – life brushing against old wounds, demanding to be seen and healed.

And here's a potent truth bomb: sometimes, that trigger, that raw "energetic hole," exposes the very gap between where you are and where someone else is – a gap that can manifest as that uncomfortable sting of jealousy and it's a good thing. You see their growth, their success, their radiance, their personal power, impact, etc. and it hits a nerve.

But listen up: that discomfort isn't a sign of your inadequacy; it's your soul's fierce GPS system highlighting the potential within you! Turn that into a healthy kick up the arse for growth. That feeling of "I want that too" is your inner champion kicking you in the arse, saying, "Move, warrior! That's your direction!"

The Unethical Unconscious Coach vs. The Ethical Conscious Coach

Here’s where the rubber meets the damn road. The unconscious coach – probably still wrestling their own demons and projecting their unresolved crap – will shy away from your triggers, including those messy feelings of envy. They’ll try to smooth them over, minimize them, or even subtly shame you for feeling "less than." This is the kind of BS we're seeing called out in the public domain, and it's unacceptable! It's like putting a band-aid on a gaping, infected wound and telling you it's your fault it stings.

The conscious coach? They recognize the volcanic power in all those triggered moments, including the green-eyed monster rearing its head. They know these reactions aren't signs of failure but powerful portals to your deepest healing and your fiercest desires. They create a fiercely safe space – a non-negotiable requirement for true vulnerability, and the limitless woman way of fostering profound growth – for you to lean into those feelings, understand their damn origins (including that gap you perceive), and courageously work through the underlying pain and use that desire as fuel for your own ascent. And yes, even the coach will navigate their own triggers because we're all human, but the cardinal rule?

We NEVER, EVER blame the client for their perfectly valid emotional experience. We own the coaching space, we own the safety, and we sure as hell don't re-traumatize by mirroring the toxic dynamics of the past!

Being Triggered is NOT the Problem – It's the Damn SOLUTION (and Your Personal Rocket Fuel!)

That intense emotional firestorm you feel when triggered? It’s exposing an "energetic hole," a place where your power is still tethered to old BS. And sometimes, that hole reveals the very trajectory of your own growth, ignited by what you perceive in others. What triggers us in others is in us, because the explosive IS WITHIN US. The trigger is external, the explosive is YOU! It's your chance to bring fierce awareness and radical self-compassion to that wounded warrior within, and to harness that desire as the wind beneath your wings.

We ALL have these holes. We've all navigated the messy, imperfect terrain of life. And guess what? We're all triggering each other all the damn time in this human experience. It's not about blame and victimhood; it's about recognising our interconnectedness and the immense potential for mutual growth when we handle it with integrity and respect as a damn worldwide team – and when we use those triggers as our personal damn rocket fuel!

Coaches, it's time to drop the shame game! Stop down punching and shaming the sacred experience of being triggered. Stop shaming the very wounds that hold the keys to liberation. If we didn't experience emotional triggers as human beings, you wouldn't have been called to become a coach and you'd have no clients!

And for the love of all that is holy, stop publicly displaying your own lack of emotional regulation and blaming your clients! These are not weaknesses to be hidden; they are the damn roadmap to profound healing and unstoppable transformation! And that uncomfortable gap you feel when triggered by someone else's shine? That's not a reason to shrink; it's your internal compass pointing you towards your own damn brilliance!

Instead of whispering, "Don't get triggered," let's roar: "What the hell is this feeling trying to tell me? Where in my awesome history have I felt this before? What core need is rising to demand my attention? And what damn growth am I being called towards right now?!"

By approaching triggers – all of them, even the ones tinged with jealousy – with fierce curiosity and unwavering compassion – both for ourselves and our clients – we unlock the vault to deep healing and create a fiercely authentic and empowered experience of being human. This is the Limitless Woman way - to ditch the fear, embrace the fire, and recognise that being triggered is not a damn curse – it's pure, undiluted GOLD!

This is the limitless woman way: to transmute triggers into triumph. Feel the trigger. Process it. And create some goals from it!

I love you! xDS

Dhanu Saveeta